Natural Remedies for Breastfeeding Pain & Nipple Pain

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Breastfeeding Pain… Sometimes, Breastfeeding Hurts!breastfeeding pain

Even though one or two people warned me that breastfeeding can be painful, I was woefully unprepared for how painful it was to breastfeed my son for the first few months of his life! It is not typical to experience breastfeeding pain for as long as I did (read about my breastfeeding challenges here). Along the way, I tried everything to soothe my aching breasts and nipples.

This post shares my favorite natural remedies for breastfeeding pain and nipple pain.  I would take the occasional painkiller, but I focused on natural ways to reduce the pain since that seemed to be the best for me and my son.  Just one thing I would like to say before we dive into the natural remedies – it is important to identify the source of the breastfeeding pain so you can correct the issue and breastfeed comfortably. The products here will help relieve pain, but it is best to correct the source of the discomfort!

Disclosure: This post contains affiliate links. These are all products I personally paid for myself and use (this is not sponsored content) and all opinions are 100% my own.

Natural Remedies for Nipple Pain

Silverette Silver Nipple Cups

These are by far my favorite product to ease breastfeeding pain!  It is a bit more expensive than other remedies, but I think they are 100% worth it. They never wear out so you can use them for years. Silver has natural healing properties so wearing these over your nipples between nursing sessions will minimize pain and speed healing.

Earth Mama Angel Baby Nipple Butter

This is a natural, organic, and vegan nipple butter. I use this as well as lanolin (see below) to avoid nipple pain from breastfeeding, or to heal my nipples if they become chapped or cracked. It is a blend of cocoa butter, shea butter, mango butter and calendula, so it really promotes healing if you have nipple damage.

Lanolin Cream

Lanolin is a must-have for me! Lanolin cream helps to avoid cracked, chafed or sore nipples. If you have nipple damage, lanolin will also promote healing. Note, lanolin is derived from sheep’s wool, so the Earth Mama Angel Baby product above is a good plant-based alternative if you want to avoid animal byproducts. Lansinoh makes my favorite lanolin – I have also used Medela but Lansinoh’s is easier to dispense from the tube.

Medela Tender Care Hydrogel Pads

Hydrogel pads give cooling moisture relief with the natural ingredient glycerol. They are an amazing product for breastfeeding pain. The gel pads promote healing if nipples are chafed, cracked, or otherwise damaged, and they are also soothing through the cool moisture. It is safe to wear them between feeding sessions – your baby can nurse directly immediately after you remove the hydrogel pad.

Medela SoftShells for Sore Nipples

Medela SoftShells are designed to protect your nipples while wearing a bra (similar to Silverettes). You can wear them between breastfeeding or pumping sessions to prevent chafing and allow air to circulate around your nipples. SoftShells help your nipples heal faster if they are cracked or chafed. The shells are best for daytime use because they also collect any milk from leaking breasts – be sure to point the air holes upward so the milk doesn’t leak out!

Saline Solution – Salt Water Rinse

Rinsing your nipples after feeding with a warm saline solution can promote healing and reduce pain. Mix approximately 1/2 teaspoon of salt with 8 ounces of warm water. Soak each nipple in the water for approximately 1 minute, and pat dry very gently. I usually use a small drinking glass or bowl, but any container will do!

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Natural Remedies for Breast Pain or Engorgement

Bamboobies Boob-Ease Breast Pillows

Boob-Ease Breast Pillows are made in the USA and they provide all natural breastfeeding pain relief. They are made of bamboo and cotton and are stuffed with natural flaxseeds. You can heat them or cool them to soothe pain from breastfeeding or pumping. I found them very soothing for engorgement and also to help ease pain from vasospasm.

Lansinoh Thera-Pearl Hot-Cool Breast Pads

These breast therapy pads can be chilled in the freezer or heated in the microwave. If you have pain from vasospasm, clogged ducts, or mastitis, these will provide wonderful heat therapy. Freezing them for cold therapy is great to ease pain from engorgement or to soothe tender nipples. Aside from soothing breastfeeding pain, the pads can also be used when pumping – warming them and placing them around your pump flanges helps stimulate letdown and milk-flow.

Green Cabbage

Yes, this sounds odd at first. However, cabbage has wonderful anti-inflammatory properties. If you are feeling pain due to engorgement, placing cabbage leaves over your breasts will relieve the engorgement. Some women use cabbage during the weaning process if they find themselves uncomfortably engorged. Do be careful if you are not trying to wean – using the cabbage leaves often can reduce your milk supply.

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I hope you find these remedies helpful. Let me know what worked (and didn’t!) for you in the comments below.

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Tips to Survive a Nursing Strike

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The Dreaded Nursing Strike

I have been fortunate to have experienced only one nursing strike with my son. It was a painful and frightening few days, but we made it through. My son had barely started solids when it happened. Suddenly, he wouldn’t nurse, and he refused to eat or drink anything else. He didn’t seem sick, but I ran to the doctor after 48 hours because he was getting dehydrated.

It turned out my son was refusing to nurse, drink milk from a bottle, or swallow just about anything, because he had tonsillitis. We started him on antibiotics as well as a painkiller, and slowly he returned to nursing. 

Nursing StrikeWhat Exactly is a Nursing Strike?

A nursing strike is when a breastfed baby/ child suddenly refuses the breast. It can be confused with self-weaning, but since it typically happens quite suddenly you can often tell the difference. While natural weaning typically occurs over a period of weeks or months, with a gradual reduction in amount of breastfeeding, a nursing strike is very abrupt.

In the case of my son’s nursing strike, he didn’t ask to breastfeed for several hours, and when I offered the breast he refused. At first, this didn’t seem to extraordinary, but as the day wore on and he also refused to eat or drink anything else, while continuing to refuse to breastfeed, I grew worried.

In our case, my son slowly came back to the breast as the pain of his tonsillitis receded. I am sharing my tips on getting through a nursing strike below, based on both my experience and what I heard from friends when I was researching what to do with my son who wouldn’t breastfeed. 

Tips to Survive a Nursing Strike

1. Check for a cause – such as illness or ear infection. While many nursing strikes are completely inexplicable, they can also can be due to factors such as pain from an illness, teething or, emotional upset after a new experience. During my son’s nursing strike he wasn’t displaying signs of illness, but when we saw the pediatrician I learned he was refusing to nurse due to tonsillitis. Once the tonsillitis was treated, he slowly resumed breastfeeding. 

2. Encourage breastfeeding through skin-to-skin contact. A lactation consultant once told me that skin-to-skin can work like a “reset button” if your baby is upset. I practiced skin-to-skin a lot through the newborn and infant stage, but then stopped. It can work wonders with older babies, as well, though, and helped my son resume nursing when he was sick.

3. Pump or hand express to keep up supply (and relieve engorgement). Nursing strikes usually last only a few days, but it is useful to express some milk to avoid the pain of engorgement or possible clogged ducts. Of course, it will also help maintain your supply, and you can offer the expressed milk to your child. I’ve been really into the Haakaa silicone breast pump lately for quick and easy milk expression (affiliate link).

4. Offer expressed milk in a cup or bottle. Especially if a younger baby (whose diet is primarily breastmilk) is refusing the breast, you can offer the expressed milk in a cup or bottle. 

5. Begin a feed with a cup/ bottle, then try switching to the breast. Your child may be more willing to nurse directly if they have already had a bit of milk. Offering expressed milk first might whet their appetite, so to speak, so they are willing to try drinking more milk by breastfeeding directly. Como Tomo bottles are very breast-like! (affiliate link)

6. Experiment with breastfeeding in different positions than usual. There are a variety of comfortable breastfeeding positions to experiment with. You can also try nursing in a carrier – this worked well for me when my son was in an easily distracted phase because it helped him to focus. You can also do skin-to-skin easily in a carrier. During my son’s nursing strike, we used the carrier a lot.

7. Offer the breast while baby is very drowsy or nearly asleep. This has also worked well for me. Both when my son was refusing to nurse and also during a distractible phase, he was willing to nurse if I offered him my breast just before or after a nap, or at bedtime. In particular at the height of his nursing striked, this was the only way I could get him to breastfeed!

8. Be persistent. If you are ready to wean, then you can take the nursing strike as a solution. However, if you feel you and your child should continue your breastfeeding relationship, be persistent in the face of the nursing strike. They typically last only 3-5 days, but even a longer nursing strike can be overcome if you keep offering to breastfeed and experiment with some of the ideas above.

Other Resources

When my son refused to nurse, I searched online for advice and saw our pediatrician over dehydration worries. Kellymom of course had great information, I also found these stories inspiring. 

Have you experienced a nursing strike? How did you overcome it? Share your experience in the comments!

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Why I Wanted to Quit Breastfeeding

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Never Quit Breastfeeding on a Bad Day

Before I started breastfeeding, I heard “never quit breastfeeding on a bad day”. I filed this advice away, not because I thought I would need it, but because I thought it was odd so it stuck out in my mind.

You see, pre-baby, my knowledge of breastfeeding was really limited. I’d only ever really seen breastfeeding in pictures. And of course, in those pictures the baby was snug at his mother’s breast as she looked down at him in peace.

I had a pretty harsh wake up call when my son was born and I started breastfeeding. I had so many misconceptions, the biggest of all being that it would be very easy! It turns out my vision of breastfeeding was really idealized. I didn’t grow up around breastfeeding women and not many of my friends breastfed, so I didn’t know any better.

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Breastfeeding isn’t Easy!

Breastfeeding is a learned skill for moms, and for many, it is not easy to learn. I struggled a lot with latch issues and pain. Beyond that, since my expectations were so out of line with breastfeeding reality, I also struggled with behaviors that are actually normal, like prolonged cluster feeding, difficulty with overactive letdown, or frequent night wakings. 

But Don’t be Discouraged….

I don’t want to discourage anyone from breastfeeding by writing this list – and I don’t want to be interpreted just as a complainer (but maybe that’s a fair assessment). My aim here is to share a real perspective on breastfeeding.

Breastfeeding is on the rise and I hope it returns to being the norm so we can be better prepared to breastfeed our offspring. Had I understood breastfeeding and had realistic expectations, nursing my son up to this point would have been more pleasant and saved me a lot of tears. (If you haven’t begun breastfeeding, I recommend reading 5 Things I’d Wish I’d Known Before I Started Breastfeeding.)

Following is the list of my toughest times with breastfeeding. As I look at the list I realize each item sounds pretty inconsequential, but in the moment I was thisclose to giving up breastfeeding. I was struggling with pain and latch issues on top of the typical sleep-deprived-new-parent feeling so each of these difficulties merited a very teary call to my doula or a sob on my husband’s shoulder. I’m lucky I was surrounded by supportive people.  

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11 Reasons I Almost Quit Breastfeeding

  1. When it felt like he was feeding for hours on end, and he actually was
  2. When the pain was so bad I cried each and everytime time he latched on for a feed
  3. When two different lactation consultants told me our latch ‘looked good’ but the pain was still unbearable
  4. When I would wake up in the middle of the night so hungry I would eat an entire pizza (see my healthy snack alternatives)
  5. When I sweat uncontrollably and experienced hot flashes at the start of each feeding
  6. When we went through the phase where he’d claw at my breasts while feeding and actually draw blood
  7. When I pumped at 3am, got enough milk for a whole bottle, and then spilled it all on my bed
  8. When I was frustrated with pumping daily at work
  9. When he started teething and bit my nipple for the first time (and second, and third)
  10. When he continued to wake up several times per night to nurse after his 1st birthday 
  11. When I had to be sure I was wearing clothes that I could breastfeed in every time we went out together

I Have Continued to Breastfeed!

16 months into breastfeeding my son, I can say the benefits and positive moments certainly outweigh the challenges, but it wasn’t an easy journey. I am amazed at myself sometimes – I’ve gone from actively telling people how much I hate breastfeeding to actively telling them how much I love it.

I am proud of myself for sticking with breastfeeding. My own stubbornness was a big factor, as well as willingness to seek help and learn. But, I truly believe more education and information up front would have set me up for better success, and kept me away from the brink of quitting so many times.

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Breastfeeding my Toddler

This is the main reason I created this website – to help share information on breastfeeding and offer support to anyone else who is struggling. There will always be challenges, but the more we talk about breastfeeding the more we can normalize it and ensure everyone is better informed.

Have you struggled with breastfeeding? What made you want to give up? Share in the comments below!

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Desperately Seeking a Good Latch – How I Breastfed with Flat Nipples and Overcame Vasospasm / Nipple Blanching

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My Idealized Vision of Breastfeeding vs. Reality

Before my son was born, my image of breastfeeding was of quiet, tender, fulfilling moments shared between a mother and child. I pictured peaceful feeding sessions filled with smiles and coos. I imagined us under the moonlight with fireflies dancing around. Turns out I was straight up delusional. 15 months in, my son and I have a successful breastfeeding relationship, but it is far from peaceful and I struggled with a lot of pain and frustration at the start.

While there was a big mismatch in my expectations vs. breastfeeding reality, my son and I also struggled at the start because I apparently have flat nipples. I’m not sure how I missed this critical piece of information… I guess I never really compared other women’s nipples to my own? Or maybe the problem was I never heard of flat nipples? We hear jokes about inverted nipples, but I didn’t know flat nipples were a thing!

The Early Days – Not Latching, Pushy Nurses, and Nipple Shields

So, part of my romantic breastfeeding vision involved my son latching on naturally and drinking heartily shortly after birth. Needless to say, this did not happen at all. My doula advised hand expressing and feeding him with a dropper, but I was too chicken to stand up to the pushy nurses and actually do this during my hospital stay. Instead, I endured many hours of them alternately pulling on my nipples and then squeezing my breasts while trying to get my son to latch. I appreciate their efforts but it was really just painful for me and frustrating for my son.

Plus, once the nurses decided they didn’t think my son would latch, they brought in a nipple shield. I’d never heard of nipple shields but they were like magic – nipple shield applied and poof! baby was suddenly nursing. So, we nursed with nipple shields, but I hated them!

It was frustrating to always have to put it on before the baby could feed, especially at night or if we were out. The shield always seemed dirty even when I’d just sterilized it. The baby can’t achieve a perfect seal when nursing with a nipple shield, so a lot of milk leaks out and I felt like I smelled like a stale dairy farm all the time. I also worried because I read the shields could prevent the baby from taking in enough milk. But most of all, this vision of a natural and dreamy breastfeeding relationship that I was still clinging to most certainly did not involve the annoying nipple shields.

Weaning Off of Nipple Shields

I was determined to wean Baby C from the shields and we worked at it for a couple of months.At the start of each feed I would try to have him latch without the shield. Often, he wouldn’t, so we would use the shield a bit and then try without the shield again. And again. And again. And again. It went on for weeks and I really didn’t think he’d ever feed directly without the nipple shields, but slowly he started latching without them, then nursing a bit without them. Very gradually the time spent feeding without the nipple shields increased until he was nursing directly all the time!

I was elated to not be using the nipple shields, but I was also making a mistake. I didn’t pay attention to his latch AT ALL.  Yeah, it hurt, but I was so glad he was feeding without the shields that I didn’t want to do anything that would disrupt him. Fast forward two days and my nipples were cracked and bleeding.

A New Challenge – Vasospasm in my Nipples

At this point I tried out my breast pump so I could express some milk and give my nipples a bit of time to heal. This helped with healing, but not with my little one’s latch. Enter the next issue… his latch caused me to develop vasospasms, or nipple blanching, in both breasts. This pain rivaled childbirth in intensity! At first I didn’t know what was wrong and I had him checked for tongue tie and also suspected thrush. I was now at the point where I would sob in pain at the start of each feeding. The nipple blanching also happened between feedings so I couldn’t find any relief.

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A good latch, finally

Even the breast pump couldn’t help reduce my pain because the suction sometimes triggered the vasospasms. I had to focus on a good latch and rely on heat therapy and occasionally ibuprofen to work through the pain. The nipple blanching lasted about 2 months, but eventually, as Baby C reached 5 months old I could finally breastfeed without shields and with less pain. I would say breastfeeding was finally pain-free at about 6 months postpartum.

7 Months In – Starting to Enjoy Breastfeeding

By the time he was about 7 months I started to actually enjoy breastfeeding – something I never thought would happen. If it hadn’t been for support from lactation consultants, my husband, other breastfeeding moms, and the information I found online, I definitely would not have made it as an exclusively breastfeeding mom. I’m so grateful now that I stuck with it.

Honestly, nursing is like a reset button. Fell and bumped your head? Milk will make you feel better. Cranky because you’re hungry? Have a sip of milk and then we’ll prepare your dinner. Tired of sitting in my lap on the plane? Let’s nurse a bit. Convenience, by far, is my favorite part of breastfeeding!

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Breastfeeding and Teething: 5 Tips to Prevent Biting

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breastfeeding and teething tips to prevent bitingWhat’s it like to breastfeed a baby with teeth?

A baby with teeth can put off a lot of breastfeeding moms. Before my son was born I would often say that I would breastfeed until his teeth came in. Once his teeth did come in and I continued breastfeeding, more than a few people looked at me with a mix of wonder and disgust when they realized I was breastfeeding a baby with teeth.

When a baby/child is actively nursing, they can’t actually bite you because of the position of their tongue. Once I realized this I felt a lot better about breastfeeding! A baby may bite during a breastfeeding session, but they physically cannot bite you while they are actively drinking milk. 

Biting can be quite painful!

Aside from the occasional (extremely painful) bite, breastfeeding my son after he started teething was no different than breastfeeding him before. My son also teethed relatively early, with his first two teeth coming in just as he reached 5 months. By then our breastfeeding relationship was pretty well established and I also wanted to exclusively breastfeed him until he started solids, so we chugged away with nursing as he teethed.

Having your nipple bitten while breastfeeding is incredibly painful. Much like I wasn’t prepared for the initial pain of breastfeeding, I was also not prepared for the pain of a bite! There are a few tactics to teach your child biting is not okay and to prevent future bites.

How can you prevent biting while breastfeeding? 5 Tips:

1. Unlatch him or her. If your nursling bites you, unlatch and gently but firmly say something like ‘Biting is not okay. Biting hurts mommy.’ If they don’t understand your language, they will understand that biting means no milk and they will generally learn quite quickly.

2. Pay close attention. If you think your child is about to bite, slip your finger into his or her mouth so your finger gets bitten instead. Since a baby can’t bite while actively nursing, pay close attention so you can be prepared if they try to bite.

3. Avoid yelling or other dramatic reactions. This will be hard when you’re in pain, but dramatic reactions can actually encourage your child to repeat the biting behaviour to see the same big reaction again.

4. Remember, while actively feeding, it is impossible for your child to bite.  This is because of the position of their tongue. If you have been experiencing biting, pay attention as they finish a feed and unlatch them before they can bite.

5. Check the cause of biting. Your son or daughter may bite if the milk flow is too fast – if you have an overactive or fast let down, you can unlatch your nursling as your milk starts to flow and then allow them to latch back on once the flow is a bit slower.

When I look back now, I laugh at how I was intimidated about breastfeeding my son after his teeth came in. Teething did add a bit of a challenge, but it has been very manageable and I would encourage anyone who is hesitating to continue breastfeeding after teething to try it!

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