You Can Keep Your Thoughts to Yourself, Thankyouverymuch…
Overall, I’ve had a fantastic experience breastfeeding my son for the past 22 months, without encountering many negative attitudes. But that doesn’t mean it has all been sunshine and roses. The 7 people who said the following things to me are now a lot more educated about breastfeeding, and maybe a little scared of me. So, let’s take a look at the 7 most annoying things people have said to me – the things breastfeeding moms never want to hear.
7 Things Breastfeeding Moms Never Want to Hear
- You’re still breastfeeding!? Why yes, I am. Was it not obvious as you can see me nursing my son right now? The word ‘still’ rankles me more than you can imagine! I am breastfeeding my son, ideally until he weans naturally. I haven’t even reached the 2 year recommended breastfeeding minimum by the WHO. The word ‘still’ always feels loaded with judgement in this sentence.
- When are you going to stop breastfeeding? I like to tell people that I’ll breastfeed my son until he goes to college, just to get them to stop asking such inane questions. My decision to breastfeed is none of your business! The truth is, I don’t know when I’ll stop breastfeeding. I’d like to let my son wean naturally, but I don’t know how that will work out. Or what if I have a second child? Will I want to wean during pregnancy?
- There’s no benefit to breastfeeding your baby longer than 6 months. I’ve heard this a few times, and never from anyone with any medical expertise. Clearly, you’re misinformed. Breastmilk continues to be perfectly tailored to your baby’s needs as they grow and develop, and is often the bulk of a baby’s diet up through one year of age.
- You know, you don’t have to breastfeed. This one is one of the worst. I’ve heard this when complaining about a breastfeeding issue… whether it was nipple pain, frequent night feeding, or any other thing that crops up and makes you want to vent a little about breastfeeding. To the people who have said this, you’re right, this is a personal choice that I didn’t have to make. However, I’ve made the choice to breastfeed and I’m just looking for a little empathy, which you are apparently incapable of giving!
- How are you going to get pregnant again if you’re still breastfeeding? To the people who have asked this, why are you concerned with my family planning in the first place? How do you know I want, or am capable of having, more children? And aside from that, while breastfeeding can suppress ovulation, it does not do so indefinitely. Should my husband and I decide to try for a second child, breastfeeding will likely not stand in our way. Would you like to hear about my monthly cycles and signs of ovulation? No? Then don’t ask me about future pregnancies.
- You’re breastfeeding a baby with teeth? My son teethed relatively early, and well before he was ready to start solids. This brought on the frequent and annoying question of how I could breastfeed a baby with teeth. I get it… before I had a child of my own I was a little skeptical about breastfeeding after the teeth came in. But the truth is, it doesn’t change anything! Your child might bite you a few times, but that’s it.
So, there you have it. Things I hate to hear as a breastfeeding mom. Have you experienced these annoying questions? Share in the comments below!
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